“What you believe, you see…..and achieve”
Your brain filters out much of what you see as there is too much information available for it to cope with at once.
It uses the Reticular Activating System to scan and pick out what is already familiar to it. e.g. You decide to buy a red mini because you think they are unusual – and then you see them everywhere.
Consider this. Wherever you are in your life is a reflection of what you believe to be possible for you in this world.
You cannot do something that you do not believe is possible. E.g. it was thought to be impossible to run a 4 minute mile, but as soon as Roger Bannister did it, several more men did it in the following months.
Definition of belief:
an acceptance that something exists or is true, especially one without proof.
trust, faith, or confidence in (someone or something).
We all hold lots of beliefs but the most powerful of these beliefs are those we hold are about ourselves.
Most of your beliefs are laid down before the age of 7 and come from what you see and hear and experience during those years. You are like a blank ipod. Your beliefs are like tunes are chosen for you when you are a child, loaded on to your ipod. Your beliefs are the music you dance to..
We do add to them and change them, but if we don’t challenge those early beliefs we keep these same tunes playing throughout our lives.
Once you have learned something you store it in your unconscious. So you don’t think about how to walk or talk or how to drive and your brain is then free to learn new things.
3 Steps to Change Your Beliefs
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Step 1. Awareness
Your learned beliefs and behaviours also get stored in your unconscious. The first step to changing anything is to become aware. So how do you become aware of your beliefs when they are held in your unconscious and you are not consciously aware of them?
Through your behaviour – what you do and don’t do.
Examine Your Behaviour
Ask yourself………..what I am likely to say and/or do if I believe the following?
Things generally don’t work work out for me?
Things generally work out for me?
People like me.
People don’t like me.
It is not ok to ask for what you want.
It is ok to ask for what you want
Listen to Feedback
You can easily see a lack of self belief in someone else and other people can see your beliefs more clearly than you do.
- Listen and take on board what people say about you and the things you do.
- Accept compliments
- Use a mentor or coach. They are trained to listen out for those limiting self beliefs and know how to help you to change them.
Step 2. Challenge Yourself
There are several ways that you can use to change what you believe about yourself. Here are 4 that are effective to use for yourself.
Think of something you believed as a child and don’t believe now.
What changed that belief?
You got some PROOF that it wasn’t true.
So, to change a belief, you need to prove the belief and yourself wrong‼
This is actually quite a difficult thing to do as you are ‘programmed’ to prove yourself right’. We see and achieve what we believe and this also confirms what we already believe.
Challenge yourself and look for proof that your belief is wrong.
- Notice all the things you do or see that contradict your belief.
Write them down in a daily ‘TA DAH!’ list. (This is much more useful than a ‘TO DO’ list).
- Borrow someone else’s belief.
Your partner, a friend, family, mentors, colleagues….anyone you know that believes in you. Listen to them, trust them and prove them right!
Listen to stories from people who have achieved what you want to achieve and start to believe that if they can do it, so you can you.
The quality of your life depends on your communication with the world outside of you and the quality of your communication with the world inside of you.
Become aware of what you say to other people and what your own internal voice is saying to you.
- Powerful questions
Instead of having affirmations or positive self talk, ask yourself powerful questions…Why is …what I want…. True in my life now?
Your brain will find the answers.
Along with listening to what you say, a coach or therapist asks powerful questions that challenge and change what you think, feel or believe.
Step 3. Change
This is the magic bit – when you find yourself behaving in different ways.
As the saying goes, you can’t keep doing the same things and expect anything to change. That isn’t possible. But the second you change your beliefs, what you think, how you feel and what you do changes.This is how people can and do achieve change quickly.
Consider this. Wherever you are in your life is a reflection of what you believe to be possible for you in this world. So if you’re not upgrading your beliefs to match your current and future goals, you’re going to remain stuck where you are.
If you want to find out more about your beliefs and get specific advice on how you can change contact Linda and book your free, no obligation, clarity call. firstname.lastname@example.org or 07795311354