“I’m much more assertive and as a result of that, I’ve changed my job, I have much less guilt and stress in my life and I’m so much happier…”
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“Cannot put into words what a different person I am now from then…”
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“Linda helped me through feelings of total despair and refused to let me take the blame for something I played no part in…”
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What counselling did for me was to explain that the acute anxiety and stress I was suffering from was a typical response to what I had been through and Linda gave me plenty of advice on how I could manage these symptoms effectively. She helped me through feelings of total despair and refused to let me take the blame for something I played no part in when I resorted to self blame for my predicament. Sadly there is no magic wand that can undo what has been done to me. Linda made me face up to the fact that certain aspects of my working environment are beyond my control and that a bully is unlikely to change their behaviour or my employer unlikely to provide me with more protection.
What counselling has done is to leave me much better equipped to deal with this, and to face what lies ahead.”
“I really do believe that if I hadn’t been lucky enough to come across Linda’s programme when I did, I was on a path to a breakdown of some kind…”
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“I would encourage anybody who needs any life coaching to speak to Linda, safe in the knowledge they are getting a coach who is experienced, passionate and genuinely sincere…”
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This was relatively hidden throughout College and University due to the diversity in social groups and meeting a lot of like-minded people, albeit with difficulty fitting in. However, working in a high-pressure job in Central London, the underlying self-esteem issues became very apparent as an issue very quickly upon starting my career.
This inevitably over time led to slower progress compared to my peers, a difficulty relating to colleagues and understanding how to perform well in such an environment.
In February 2017, my mother unexpected passed away, which in the end became the straw that broke the camel’s back. My motivation fell, and my paranoia people weren’t happy with me or were criticising me increased to levels that made it almost unbearable to get out of bed, let alone live a healthy and fulfilling lifestyle. After a bout of mental health leave, I was fortunate to have a line manager who was understanding and able to recommend Linda Barbour and Calm for Change and put me in touch directly.
After a consultation session, I signed up for a 3 month course that would aim to identify the core issues and work with them to introduce positive ways of thinking. I was amazed how quickly Linda was able to use her experience to identify the core beliefs that were limiting my mind and making everyday life stressful. Her patient approach made speaking with her openly easy, and I was able to learn techniques that would allow me to re-train my mind to read situations with a positive outlook. Linda was able to use new and innovative techniques taken from research to achieve this and replace negative experiences or thoughts with a positive outlook and most importantly, resilience.
By the third month it was clear I was performing better at work and although those voices are still there, Linda was able to teach me how to nurture them and set them aside, to take control of my emotions and not let them limit me. Over time, I’m sure the voices will get quieter if not disappear completely. I would encourage anybody who needs any life coaching to speak to Linda, safe in the knowledge they are getting a coach who is experienced, passionate and genuinely sincere.”
“Linda makes you work through things at a pace that is right for you…”
Sue Herne, Suffolk
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“My life broke badly but now it’s coming back again…”
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“I was amazed at just how much I was able to uncover through this online coaching programme…”
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“I found Linda’s approach to be practical, pragmatic with clear outcomes…”
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“I came to realise that despite being on anti-depressants, time off work and pills weren’t actually going to help me cope with the problems, they were all still there and ongoing. I was therefore referred to Linda via Occupational Health and my employer. She helped me find ways to take a step back when necessary to enable me to think things through calmly and reassured me that what I was feeling was normal given the problems I was facing, and what I needed were strategies to help me cope. With Linda’s help I was eventually able to come off the pills and return to work. I know now how to recognise the signs if things start building up again and I know what I need to do.
I sought counselling to deal with a diagnosis of anxiety/depression in combination with prescribed anti-depressants. I found Linda’s approach to be practical, pragmatic with clear outcomes. There was a welcome lack of psycho-babble and my confidence in my ability to deal with irrational thinking patterns was hugely boosted by Linda. I am now recovering and enjoying an easier life.
While I’ve been in the field of counselling and coaching for a long time, it was only when I came across Linda’s superb programme that I really began to understand about depression at a much deeper level. Many of us – myself included – have learnt such great coping mechanisms that enable us to “get through life with a smile on our face” that little do we realise that all we’ve succeeded in doing is suppress our emotions. While we can go on like this for years – at some point, we face “burn out”. And that’s what’s very, very nearly happened to me. Already, my immune system was playing up – three colds in three months followed by a nasty bout of flu a month later – coupled with a complete lack of energy, focus and joy. I was very fortunate to come across Linda’s online programme just when I needed it – and working with her on a one-to-one basis paid massive dividends too.
Linda calls herself a “Common Sense Counsellor” – and that’s exactly what she is. No mumbo jumbo – just understanding guidance, a helpful perspective and a delightful sense of humour. What I came to understand is that the “coping behaviours” we learnt as children may have been the best strategy at the time – but until they’re understood and replaced with the right behaviours for us as adults, we’re never able to live to our full potential. In hindsight, I can now see that I have actually suffered from mild depression most of my life – supressing my feelings in a bid to make a living and be “normal”. It was when Linda pointed out that “depression often strikes the strongest, ‘successful’ people” that the penny dropped. I’d done all I could to be “strong and successful” – and yet my body was paying the price. And it wasn’t just my body. I’d also managed to cut off most of my feelings – which meant that life had started to become increasingly “grey”.”
“I have come away from our sessions feeling a very much better person than the one that started…”
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I have come away from our sessions feeling a very much better person than the one that started. I am comfortable in myself and my ability to tackle the problems that life throws at me. I will however want to keep in touch with Linda as the feeling of having a safety net is wonderful when things do get a little challenging. It was an experience that I am glad I have had and it has and will continue to enhance not only my life, but my family’s lives too.”
“I am now able to control my anxiety and work more methodically…”
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The coping strategies I learnt helped to understand mental illness and my body and the way it works. I am now able to control my anxiety and work more methodically. I have general well-being about myself and sleep soundly each night, my concentration has returned and I am enjoying reading novels which aids my relaxation. I would recommend this professional confidential service to anyone.
I knew that it would be difficult facing my deep-rooted problems. At the beginning of my sessions there were many tears but with Linda’s help and patience I began to understand myself more. Slowly, without realising it, that heavy black cloud over me had gone and I could begin to look forward.”
“Since working with Linda, I am sleeping better, getting to sleep more easily, my energy and focus is concentrated on moving forward, rather than going round in circles on the same issue, which kept coming up. This means I’m stronger business-wise and within my family…”
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I have recently completed a coaching course with Linda and she has quite literally enabled me to make some simple changes which have had a huge impact on my personal and business life. Since working with her I am sleeping better, getting to sleep more easily, my energy and focus is concentrated on moving forward rather than going round in circles on the same issue which kept coming up. This means I’m stronger business wise and within my family.
Linda has restored my faith in myself, which was in terms of family relationships completely destroyed and also my faith in my decisions she has allowed me to allow myself to be me rather than fitting into other people’s needs. I have always thought of myself as strong and resilient but there were recurring issues which I could not shake off that were quite literally weighing me down. Linda has enabled me to break that cyclical experience and stand very firmly in my own skin. The other aspect was that working with Linda who was at all times extremely honest which challenged me in a very good way. Hearing from a completely different perspective meant I could accept what she said rather than thinking ‘ oh she doesn’t really mean that’ or ‘they are just saying that’ as I would with friends it really opened my eyes to the reality of the situation. Linda’s time is priceless gave me a such a real turnaround on situations which I thought were inescapable and never ending. I honestly will never ever go back to where I was before with Linda’s help she was there 24/7 still is as and when I need an extra boost and I will never be able to thank her enough for what she has done for me.
Linda is a through and thorough professional with a massive heart and real genuine honesty. I wholeheartedly urge anyone going through a tricky time or with ongoing issues to see and speak to Linda to see what may be possible!!”
“Linda has a very unique way of working, which has enabled me to find ways of living my life more calmly, with less anxiety and terror and with more confidence than I ever thought possible…”
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“I have never felt judged, but always accepted, and in the company of someone positive, wise and supportive…”