How long have you been doing what you do, and how did you become a Therapeutic Coach?

To answer this question, it’s probably best that I share with you a couple of defining moments, that brought me to where I am today – coaching people like you on exactly what to do to get rid of the old baggage – those limiting beliefs, negative emotions and inner conflicts – that you carry around and stop you from being you and living YOUR life.

I have had a couple of significant ‘so what!’/defining moments in my life when I felt low and dispirited because I wasn’t feeling happy and fulfilled,  despite having a life that looked great from the outside. 

Moving from beating myself up and trying to work out what was ‘wrong’ with me to the  realisation that my negativity towards myself, my doubts and fears, were actually stopping me from trusting myself and being confident enough to make changes and be as happy on the inside as I appeared to be on the outside. 

The first time it happened I had been on holiday in Eire, from my ‘BIG JOB’ managing a large Housing Department, providing a range of specialized accommodation with support. My job was innovative, hugely rewarding and exciting for many years and the work I was doing was making a massive difference to people’s lives.

As I landed at Stanstead Airport I had this voice in my head saying, “So what?”  So, what that you are doing all this stuff…I realized that it wasn’t meaningful for me any more and I was feeling exhausted, resentful and always stressed.

Taking some time out from my regular routines, including swimming with a wild dolphin, had made those every day, ‘normal’ feelings and thoughts disappear and when I came home to my house, they flooded back and those negative feelings and thoughts, that I lived with permanently, that seemed entirely ‘normal’, suddenly became really uncomfortable  and didn’t go back into their box as I resumed my ‘normal’ life.

Within a year I had given up the big job, moved out of London to the Suffolk countryside and did various part time jobs until I had completed my psychotherapy training. Over the next couple of years, I got married, had a baby and started my counselling and coaching practice that allowed me to do work I loved and found fulfilling, take care of my children and build a new life that fitted who I was at the time.

The next time was not such a clear defining moment. It was a sense of resentment, underlying stress and unhappiness, a feeling like I was living someone else’s life that built up over several years that I tried to ignore for a long time in the hope that it would go away. I spent a lot of time and money trying to ‘fix myself’. After all I should be happy. I had so much to be grateful for in my life:

  •  a job I love;
  • two healthy children;
  • an enviable lifestyle on a farm, eating home produced food;
  • I was surrounded by beautiful countryside to ride through on my long dreamt of horse.

What was wrong with me?

 

Why wasn’t I grateful enough to be happy and content?

Why was I so unhappy?

Maybe it was the menopause, or that I needed to do more self-care?

Maybe I needed to attend to my spirituality or financial well being?

Lose weight, be fitter?

I set about fixing myself and keeping busy working and making sure that everyone else was happy. My confidence and self-esteem seeped away. I lost myself, felt depressed and weary. My efforts to ‘improve’ myself and mould myself and make myself fit in, just made me feel worse. But the more I looked, and the happier other people were, the more I realized that it wasn’t me who was the problem…. despite what other people thought.

Gradually I realized that there was nothing wrong with me or my situation, it just wasn’t right for me now. 25 years ago, it was my dream, and my children and husband were happy and content, but I had moved on and my situation hadn’t changed and wouldn’t change, whatever I did. I therefore had to change my situation and after 25 years I regretfully left my marriage, my home and the life that I had spent so long and invested so time and energy in to. I had ‘served my time’

This was now my time to thrive

 

Getting rid of my accumulated negative feelings about myself, has meant that I am now clear about who I am now, what is right for me and the people that I love.

Since then, I’ve worked with thousands of private clients, spoken in front of countless groups: I am creating my dream life – being happy in my skin, building my business and spending my time doing the things that I love with people I care for and care for me….and feeling good about myself.

Using all my professional skills as a psychotherapist, coach and small business owner, along with my own personal experiences of what works, I have since made a commitment to dedicate the rest of my professional life to helping other small business owners and women in their 50’s and beyond, to make the most of this time in their lives and have created a 3 month Programme and  a One Day Intensive  – based on the 6 steps you need to take and get rid of the blocks that keep you stuck or overwhelmed, replace those unhelpful beliefs and feelings so you feel happy in your skin, make the most of all the opportunities available to you and enjoy life.

Making changes on the inside means that you get the courage, clarity and motivation you need to make changes that you know are right for you – and more importantly last – way beyond the time you work with me.

Who Are Your Clients?

I work with people just like you who are:

  • In your late middle age 40’s and beyond
  • Feel lost, stuck or overwhelmed
  • Lack the confidence and self-esteem to make changes
  • Have tried other ways to make yourself feel better
  • Want to feel powerful and positive about yourself.

What Makes You Different from other “Therapeutic Coaches”?

I expect you realise that the only thing holding you back is YOU!

I am focused on you getting yourself out of the way so you can let your light shine.

Although we will occasionally touch upon your past, our focus is always on where you are now and what you need to be and do to make the most of this time in your life, without all the accumulated ‘life baggage’ weighing you down.

I work on your inner blocks and remove those negative emotions, the inner conflicts and limiting self-beliefs so that you have absolute clarity about who you are and what matters to you now. What that means for you is that you get a midlife reinvention expert to challenge you and guide you firmly in the direction that is right for you now.

Along the way we will have some tears and laughter, but you always focus on your strengths and use you’re your considerable resources, so you find the joy and motivation you need to make the most of this exciting time in your life.

I am interested in getting enduring results that last way beyond the time you stop working with me. This is not a quick fix, – a temporary feel good programme – you will get rid of whatever is standing in the way of you being clear, calm and confident in yourself.

What Type of Personality Do You Work Best with and What is Expected of Me?

The Changemaker Programme was created for women who are absolutely determined to make the most of late middle age – imagine – not running around all day long, beating yourself up anymore saying: “if only I had the confidence to just be me and do what I really want“

It was created for you to change the way you believe, think and feel about yourself within a few weeks, which will enable you to be crystal clear about what to do next and how you will achieve it.

Being a woman in my 50’s myself, I’m known to work best with other women who are committed to making their own happiness and success, who are ready to get going and just want to know exactly what steps to take to feel clear and good about themselves and be able to take advantage of the opportunities and changes happening in your life now. My clients often tell me – “I just don’t know where to start as I feel worn out/confused,/stuck or overwhelmed as there is so much going on in my life”.

Consider what you’ll do with me to be a crash course on everything you need to know to get clear and calm. You will be expected to take consistent action. No excuses anymore, just a different way of thinking and full support while you stop just coping and surviving and start to thrive.

For What Type of Professionals Are Your Programmes NOT Going to Work?

Please know I’m very selective in who I work with and I cherry-pick my clients carefully, choosing to (gently) turn away people who aren’t suited for my programme and won’t get the results for which they would have signed up for. (It wouldn’t be fair to them.)

The Changemaker Programme is NOT for those who have no money coming in and are absolutely, financially desperate, at least not right away. It’s been my experience that women find it difficult to invest in themselves. There is always something else that you could use this money for in the family. We are not used to putting ourselves first and buying something that you can’t see or touch. If you fall within this category, it’s OK. We are not used to valuing ourselves in this way.

Consider this…

I know you could probably carry on as you are – you are good at coping and surviving, but you also know, in your heart, that there is more to life than this.

Consider this…

If this was your best friend, husband or child considering investing in their happiness – what would you say to them?

What will happen to your family members, who depend on you, if the way you feel doesn’t just change by itself?

Perhaps there is never going to be a time when there is nothing going on in your life. Almost all the women that I work with delay working with me. Waiting until “my family is sorted, work has settled down, I am feeling calmer, my menopause has finished, the car is fixed, I have seen my GP, moved to a new house, got this project at work finished, Christmas/birthdays/holidays/ are over. …then I will have some time, money and energy for myself”

I made that mistake myself and 10 years later I was still unhappy and stuck. Don’t waste your precious time putting off your own happiness for some time in the future that will never arrive because something else will happen that you need to sort out and you never quite reach the top of the ‘To Do’ list.

What Exactly is The Changemaker Programme™ and What Does it Include?

The 3 Month Changemaker Programme begins with understanding your true value, where your power really comes from, and what gets in the way of you having the life you want. Let the Changemaker Programme help you to be calm, confident and take control of your life NOW.

Here’s what this proven programme gets you to do:

Each of the 6 steps are designed to make changes to how you think and feel as well as what you believe about yourself. Once these internal changes happen, what you want to do will become clearer and easier to achieve.

They are based on up to date, innovative, research and techniques, along with more than 20 years of experience and a healthy dose of pragmatic common sense.

Once you get old unhelpful ‘baggage’ out of the way you have room for new beliefs and fresh ways of thinking and feeling so you can move forwards quickly and easily.

The programme is highly personalised and focussed on you, and the changes you want to achieve.

Whilst there is good stress, that is helpful and keeps you going, when you have high levels of stress for a long time you do not function so well. You not only find it impossible to relax, you also can’t think straight. You constantly worry and doubt yourself and can’t see clearly.

Any thing you do that is new or different will make you feel uncomfortable – you are ‘programmed’ to feel safe with what is familiar.

If you don’t take control of your anxiety it will control you and stop you from moving forwards.

By using practical and effective tools you will free yourself from those emotions that keep you stuck in your uncomfortable comfort zone.

Get your unconscious ‘blocks’ out of the way and life becomes so much simpler. You get rid of the self-doubt and overthinking that keep you confused and paralysed.

Know who you are now. Understand what is important for you now, create a plan, and get the focus you need to make the changes you want.

As you see things clearly, options open for you, and making decisions becomes easier. They’ll be better decisions too.

True confidence is knowing that you can deal with whatever life throws your way.

Get rid of your limiting beliefs and resolve those inner conflicts to make confident decisions and take purposeful action.

Build your self-esteem, value and learn to trust yourself and feel at with ease yourself.

Your life is made up of all the choices and decisions you make – and don’t – make every day.

You might feel that you are the problem or not good enough in some way and delay doing the things you want to do until you are slimmer, wealthier, healthier, feeling more confident – or any number of reasons you can find – for not deserving to be happy and fulfilled NOW.

You end comparing yourself unfavourably and beating yourself up…getting in your own way.

Once you get yourself out of the way the way ahead is clear and the choices you have appear as if by magic!

Start to experiment, be curious and take small consistent steps. Find a balance between pleasing yourself and others, be brave and even say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to what you want!

Once you deal with that critical voice in your head you stop the constant worry, doubts and overthinking that keeps you confused, stuck or going around in circles.

That frustrating self-sabotage stops, and you make the relationship you have with yourself a positive and peaceful one.

Stop worrying about what other people think and be free to be yourself. I know for sure that hurting the people you love will not make you happy – so being yourself will make your relationships with other people deeper, more honest and straightforward.

Be more assertive, and build strong, flexible boundaries and transform your personal and professional relationships.

Having purpose and meaning in your life is essential for your wellbeing.

What you contribute, through your work, to your family and wider community is what makes you fulfilled and happy.

Learn what you need to give, or stop giving, so that you feel appreciated and successful and not resentful towards other people.

Does This Really Work?

Yes!

The result of my work is an approach to shifting your mindset and giving you the calmness, clarity and confidence, you need to make the most of this exciting and bountiful time in your life. Clink here to check out what our clients are saying!

What Results Can I Expect?

You can expect to:
  • Be yourself
  • Create the lifestyle you truly want
  • Feel empowered & excited about the future
  • Be more clear, concise and honest in your communication with other people
  • Create healthy boundaries
  • Have more ease and grace in your life
  • Health benefits, living stress free
  • Let go and release trauma in the body
  • Have big breakthroughs and ah ha moments
  • Anxiety dissipates and peace and calm sets in
  • Creating new standards for yourself
  • Put on your oxygen mask, learn how to take care of yourself and be better at caring for other people too
  • Discover yourself – as you are now
  • Set goals and reach them
  • Live life with your passions
  • Develop more compassion for yourself and others
  • Be clear concise and honest in your communication
  • Create healthy boundaries
  • Have more ease and grace in your life
  • Truly love the version of yourself that shows up to play this game called life
  • Learn how to say NO and honour your yes’s
  • Make changes without hurting other people
  • Find your happiness
  • Watch your best life unfold with ease
  • Connect with your intuition
  • Create DEEP intimacy and meaning in your personal relationships
  • Understand how your soul is awakening and developing
  • End the drama cycles and patterns
  • Raise your self-esteem and self confidence
  • Rewrite your story
  • Get rid of old baggage
  • Stop that frustrating self-sabotage and going around in circles
  • Learn how to move forwards with clarity and joy
  • Open your heart and expand into your TRUE being
  • Transform your relationship with yourself and other people
  • Gain unshakeable confidence in yourself – (a lot of my clients tell me that is worth the investment alone)
  • Learn proven techniques for releasing your internal resistance and self-sabotaging tendencies
  • Find your voice and speak your truth
  • Live a life of passion and purpose
  • Get clear on ho you are and what you want…and how to achieve it
  • Deal with the emotional and physical changes due to the menopause
  • Even out those emotional ups and downs
  • Feel motivated and energised
  • Overcome depression
  • Make long lasting changes
  • Take away a set of effective toolkit that you can use forever

Can I Contact Some of Your Former Clients?

Yes!  I encourage you to!

 

Please go to the Client Testimonials page and read all of them. See which ones you feel drawn to, either because the person has got the results you want to get too, or perhaps because that person is in a similar situation.

Then feel free to email or call them and ask what they got from working with me and my programme.

How Quickly Can I Expect Results?

Everyone who works with me feels better from their very first session. You do not need to feel worse before you feel better.

The deeper inner shifts can take a bit more time. Everyone works at their own speed, it depends on your make-up, your history and your current circumstances.

How Can I Guarantee Myself that I Will Feel Calm, Clear and Confident in Record Time?

  • Turn up regularly to your appointments.
  • You need to build momentum by committing time and energy to your success.
  • Do all your homework.
  • Be totally committed to your success.

Understand that this is a process, a proven one, that works if you act and implement all the steps. All my clients who have diligently applied every step of The Changemaker Programme have successfully achieved the changes they wanted in much less time than they would have on their own AND are happier than they could ever imagine before they started work with me.

Linda, Based on Everything I’ve read and Heard About You, I Know You’re the One I Want to Learn From.  What are My Options for Getting Started with You?

You can expect to:
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Create the lifestyle you truly want

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Stop feeling a bit lost, stuck or overwhelmed

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Know what you want and how to make it happen

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Gain clear insight into the roots of your current difficulty

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Get clear about who you are now

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Stop being so hard on yourself

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Let go of the excuses you make for not moving forwards

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Ok, I’m Ready to Do This for Myself but I Have a Couple of Additional Questions.  Can I Call You?

Fantastic, it sounds like you’re ready to be pulled into your future!

Yes, if you have a couple of questions, just email me at linda@lindabarbour.co.uk or call me directly on 07795 311 354.

I can’t wait to see you succeed and am honoured to be the one to help you. Let’s get going!

With warm best wishes for your future

Linda