A common ‘problem’ that people have, when they come and work with me, is that they can’t make a decision.

They don’t know how they feel, they don’t know what will be the right decision, they can’t decide what is best for them in the long run, or worry about how their decision will affect other people.

I am sure you have experienced this at some time in your life, and as we get older and feel the pressure of having less time left we want to make the best decisions we possibly can.

Although we are lucky to have choices that our mothers and grandmothers didn’t have it is also a burden as we can become overwhelmed by the sheer scale and number of options available to us.

One day you can think one thing and the next day the opposite.

Your head says one thing and your heart another

….and you end up confused and stuck.

No wonder.

You make at least 35,00 decisions a day!!! From what to eat or what to wear, to the bigger more important choices, about what to do with the rest of your life, where to live and what will give your life meaning and purpose.

There are lots of ways that I can help people get clear

by getting rid of those old beliefs

resolving those inner conflicts


getting rid of negative emotions that cause the blocks and confusion that stop you from making clear and confident choices in your life.

But there are 2 ways that you can make decision making easier today.

  1. Use Trusted Advisors

Ask people that you trust. One of the great things about getting older is that we become a much better judge of people and we also have a good network of people around us.

Friends and family as well as colleagues and professionals we know and trust.

Use it wisely. Consider who to ask about what.

Resist asking 10 different people as you are likely to get 10 different opinions and that will only confuse you more. Ask one or two of the most knowledgeable or trustworthy people who have something useful to say about whatever it is you need to make a decision on.

If you need legal advice, ask a solicitor, ask a colleague or business buddy about an idea for your business or workplace.

I have friends who I know will just make me laugh and by taking the seriousness out, help me to establish what I really think or feel.

2. Know Your Values

Be very clear about what is important to you in your life right now. By doing a ‘values’ exercise.

Research has shown that having a printed out list of your values (priorities) to use a reference will make this much easier.

Your values might be time to spend with your partner or grandchildren, it might be ’me time’, it could be building a business, your personal development, or just living a life with integrity. It may be having a ‘to do’, or ‘not to do list’, and there are several ways of doing this.

BOOK A FREE No OBLIGATION 40 MINUTE CLARITY SESSION WITH ME and we can work out your values together, or here is an alternative QUICK VALUES EXERCISE to do by yourself.